English Language Counselling & Psychotherapy in Hannover-Kleefeld
Many people see a psychotherapist or counsellor at some point of their lives.
I want to see a psychotherapist - am I mad?
Many people see a psychotherapist or counsellor at some point of their lives. It is in fact quite normal - and many things can bring you to counselling such as stress or feeling overwhelmed by life. You may be experiencing depression or facing a mayor change in life like a bereavement that feels too painful to bear. It can help to talk to someone in a confidential and non-judgemental environment.
How does psychotherapy work?
Psychotherapy as well as counselling will help you to think about your experiences whilst also encouraging you to be in touch with all your emotions. A psychotherapist helps you to understand deeply engrained pattern of being in the world.
Psychotherapy works partly through a framework of regular 50-minute sessions. The rhythm of one or two weekly sessions on the same day at the same time helps to heal wounds inflicted by experiences of abandonment and disruptive caregiving.
The therapeutic relationship maintains firm boundaries, which gives you the freedom to talk about issues you would not be able to share with a friend.
Why does it take so long to change?
Our thinking influences our behaviour. Familiar thought pattern are wired into our brain. It takes time to learn a different way of looking at the world. For example, when we have been abused as a child we may experience the world as scary and frightening. Rejection leaves deep scares on our psyche and it may be very hard to learn to trust someone. We may unconsciously seek abusive partners because we do not believe that we are lovable. Therapy helps to escape that trap.
Is it better to talk or to take medication for psychological problems?
It is not a question of either or. During a psychotic breakdown it is vital to see a psychiatrist and take appropriate medication. Psychoanalytic therapy can help to deal with the underlying causes of psychosis.
Counselling can work very well alongside anti-depressant medication prescribed by a medical practitioner.
What about the body in PSYCHO-therapy?
Effective therapy will also be attentive to what is happing on a bodily level. We cannot separate our physical from our mental experiences. Traumatic experiences, in particular, affect our physical and as well as our mental well being. Psychological stress can make us physically ill and serious physical illness may affect our mental well being. The two are interrelated. While it is important always to seek out medical treatment for physical illness psychotherapy can help to look at underlying causes or help you to live life with an illness.
What benefits can be expected from therapy?
Therapy is an opportunity for personal development and growth. It will help you to understand yourself better and relate to yourself and others differently. Ultimately counselling as well as psychotherapy will help you to live more fully.
English Language Counselling Hannover-Kleefeld
What is trauma?
Trauma is an experience, which disrupts healthy functioning in the 'here and now'.
It can be caused by a single incident - e.g. a road accident - or through repeated adverse experiences - e.g. childhood neglect. Trauma therapy offers tools to heal traumatic wounds.
Do I really want to travel from Braunschweig/ Hamburg/ Berlin to Hannover?
As human beings we need to talk about what is happening to us. We need to share our stories and make sense of our life.
If you feel more comfortable speaking English than German it is worth considering seeing a therapist who can also work in English even when English is your second or third language.
How do I end therapy?
You are of course free to leave therapy at any time. Sometimes an ending is agreed from the outset of treatment but if not, it is good practice to agree on an ending and to work towards that ending together.
How do I begin?
The very problems that bring us to therapy can make it equally difficult to seek help. It can be very hard to trust another human being to be willing to treat you with respect and compassion. I can only encourage you to take the first step.
How does the low cost service work?
We do understand that mental health issues can make it difficult to maintain a relationship or hold down a job. This means that many people who need psychotherapy cannot afford to pay for it. Therefore I am offering a limited number of low cost places. Feel free to contact me to discuss your issues.
What about the soul?
As human beings we need to find meaning in what happens to us. As someone with a religious background I am open to exploring existential as well as spiritual and religious questions. In doing so I will support you to find your own path in life and will strive to be respectful of your choices.
What is rumination?
Being able to reflect on our actions is partly what makes us uniquely human but ruminating - becoming excessively preoccuied - is unhealthy and can make us feel bad about ourselves. Counselling can help to disrupt unhelpful thought processes.
Is it all about the unconscious?
Famously psychoanalysis began with the idea of the unconscious. Our feelings and actions are directed by beliefs we are not even aware of. In the therapeutic relationship you will become aware of some these unconscious beliefs, assess whether they are still valid and gain greater freedom.
Psychotherapy in English - Hannover (Braunschweig)
Anger, anxiety, envy
Feelings such as anger, anxiety, envy and rage can be hard to bear. They are nevertheless part of being human. A counsellor or psychotherapist will help you to contain these feelings (anger, anxiety, envy) and to understand them.
Counselling as well as psychotherapy can help you to understand your anger and to use it effectively.
Anxiety helps us to avoid danger but it can get in the way of healthy functioning in the world. Counselling can be very effective in containing anxious feelings.
Envy can hinder us to build meaningful relationships in the here and now - and make us generally unhappy. Jealous feelings need to be understood and acknowledged.
In our world today we are often expected to function well at all times. But at times of bereavement it is quite normal not to feel well. A weekly counselling session can offer the space you need to explore all your difficult feelings of bereavement.
The death of a loved one is not the only event that can leave us feeling bereft: losing a job, moving house, ending a significant relationship are also situations of loss and bereavement. A counsellor will listen attentively and accompany you on your journey.
Depression is often a way of coping with overwhelming experiences. The body shuts down.
In the safety of a therapy session you can allow yourself to experience difficult feelings at your own pace (bit by bit).
Living and working in a foreign country can be an enriching as well as an incredibly difficult experience. It is not easy to build a life in a culture different to your own. Having gone through the experience myself I do understand some of the difficulties that can arise even though everybody's experience is unique. Immigration is even more difficult to deal with when we have not chosen to leave the country we have grown up in.
As human beings we are wired to live in relationships. We all need relationships to live and to thrive. During the first years of our lives we cannot survive without good caregiving relationships. More often than not we also get hurt in those early years and these early experiences can prevent us from building good relationships in the here and now. Psychoherapy is an opportunity to learn new ways of relating to other people.
Life can be very stressful at times. It takes time to adjust to a major change in life.
Counselling can help to contain feelings of anxiety and work through difficult experiences of (perceived) failure. Parenting or work pressures can be situations where it can be very helpful to talk to someone who is not part of the problem.